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Finding OK

Finding OK

An intersectional healing podcast for survivors of sexual assault and any/all abuse. When survivors share, they share strength. "Finding OK" helps people navigate this difficult healing process. The focus is on recovery, self-care, empowerment, and healing. You are not alone.

Recent Episodes

Feb. 18, 2025

Healing is a Revolutionary Act - Addressing the Rise of Fascism

In this episode of Finding OK, Hecate returns after a year-long hiatus to provide an update on the podcast and share personal insights on intersectionality, kyriarchy, and the importance of understanding systemic oppression a...
Oct. 17, 2023

Let Me Prey Upon You - Healing After Clergy Abuse

Sandy Phillips Kirkham is a survivor of clergy abuse and the author of, "Let Me Prey Upon You". Sandy was very active in her church growing up, her faith was the center of her life. When she was 16 her youth pastor groomed an...
Aug. 31, 2023

Escaping Fundamentalism and Speaking Out - Part 2

Part 2 of my interview with Andrew Pledger. This episode will focus on Andrew's experience with conversion therapy, how he found support exiting fundamentalism, his expulsion from BJU, and the work he's doing healing and sp...
Aug. 24, 2023

Escaping Fundamentalism and Speaking Out - Part 1

Andrew Pledger was raised in a fundamentalist Christian cult and realized in his youth that he was gay. He attended Bob Jones University, which is a fundamentalist Christian college with a chilling history of abuse. While the...
Aug. 8, 2023

Raising Yourself

Alice Cottonsox joins me to talk about recovering from childhood abuse, battling Agoraphobia, and facing online hate with humor. Alice is very open about her mental health struggles in her viral videos and she's helping many ...
July 25, 2023

Broken vs. Wounded

Do you think of yourself as "broken" because of your trauma? What about "wounded"? My sister Chie and I discuss how the language we use to talk about our trauma intersects with our healing. This episode is an invitation to in...

Recent Blog Posts

Feb. 6, 2024

Finding OK is on Break!

Finding OK is on hiatus until further notice. I am stepping back from production for mental health and financial reasons. During this time I will be focusing on self-care. At the end of every episode I always remind you to, “take care of yours…

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July 11, 2023

Letters for the Fire ~ Season 5

Letters for the Fire is back! This has had such overwhelmingly positive feedback from listeners and participants that it is now a permanent part of the show. I'm so glad to know that it's been an empowering and beneficial experience for folks who ha…

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July 19, 2022

Letters for the Fire ~ Season 4

Letters for the Fire is back for Season 4! Thank you to everyone who participated in Season 3's project, and thank you to everyone who reached out with feedback and who let me know I should bring it back in Season 4. I'm so glad that this has been a…

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Reviews

Love it!

"Super amazing podcast. Highly recommend. I learn a new thing with every episode. Very relevant with everything happening in the world and helps bring diverse conversations to the surface that need to…"

SophiPofi | July 1, 2020

Sincere and understanding

"This podcast is wonderful as is the host!"

carriemaxene1 | Dec. 9, 2020

Excellent

"Hecate is thoughtful and is doing the hard work that is this kind of visibility, healing, and sharing. Plus, the most soothing voice! ❤️"

Emers1225 | Feb. 9, 2021

Hecate is a rockstar

"Not only is she providing a safe space for indiviuals like me to share our Truth but she does it in such a compassionate way… her voice just sooths you… thank you 💜"

Atlantiens | June 30, 2021

Thank you

"Inspired me to open up a part of my life again that happened to me five years ago. Thank you for helping me in my healing process"

emilyhiatt99 | Nov. 2, 2021

Thank you

"Going through all these episodes are seriously helping me through my process of coping and healing. I appreciate you!"

Danielle43585 | Oct. 11, 2022

Fantastic podcast!

"Hecate asks very though provoking questions🔥 and I found very authentic conversations inclusive of the perspectives of the most marginalized people in our societies. Highly recommend this podcast (of…"

Kalpashree | Dec. 22, 2022

An amazing person doing amazing things

"This podcast means everything. 80% of these mental health podcast are so clinical and makes me feel like I’m at the doctor. Once I found Hecate and Finding OK, I felt like they were an anonymous frie…"

arb1098 | Jan. 4, 2023