Letters for the Fire - An Invitation
Letters for the Fire is an invitation for survivors to write a letter to their rapist or abuser and send it to me. It is one of the deepest honors of my life to hold this space. I want to find more ways to help facilitate healing, to help survivors find their strength, and to help them feel connected, seen, and held. Letters for the fire feels like a part of that and if it feels right for you I hope you’ll entrust me with your letter.
Include instructions in the subject of your email
- "Read in episode", I will read your letter aloud in an episode of the podcast.
- "Read and burn", I will read your letter to myself and burn it.
- "Burn unread", I will burn your letter without reading it.
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